Stop Networking and Start Connecting

When mentoring young professionals and students on planning their careers, I tell them what I wish someone would have told me early in my career. That is that two of the most important things you can learn that will enable your success in any field is communicating (especially public speaking) and developing strong business relationships. We'll save communicating for another post but the topic of this post will be how to develop strong business relationships.

Most people take the standard "networking" approach to developing business relationships. They go to conferences, seminars, local chapter meetings, and networking functions regularly and hand out as many business cards as they can. The focus is solely on contact acquisition. If you're primary activity in networking is handing your business card to every person you meet, you're a networking jerk. Stop doing that!

Instead, you should focus on developing the relationships you already have. You likely already know everyone you need to know through 1-2 degrees of separation. In other words, your current friends and contacts already know people, or know people who know people, who can be instrumental in your career growth (and vice versa). So stop focusing on acquiring new contacts and start focusing on developing stronger relationships with the business contacts you already have in your network.

One great way to do this is to become a Connector. The Tipping Point by Malcolm Gladwell popularized the term Connector to describe the group of people who seem to know everyone and have some influence with a large group of people. These are the people you want to know as they can open doors to new networks of people by sharing their relationships and making introductions.

"The point about Connectors is that by having a foot in so many different worlds, they have the effect of bringing them all together."

Malcolm Gladwell in The Tipping Point

These people become very valuable to their friends and contacts and that is a more worthwhile end result than anything you can accomplish with a traditional focus of acquiring new contacts by handing out hundreds of business cards.

Becoming a Connector

There are many ways to connect your friends and contacts. Here are a few that have worked for me and one I plan to implement in the future:

  • Introductions: Set aside some time weekly to consider who in your network of friends and business contacts would benefit from meeting each other. Additionally, when you're meeting with a friend or business contact, be conscious of opportunities to introduce them to someone who can help them solve a problem or be a catalyst for a new opportunity. This can be a very valuable service you can provide to your friends and contacts. Plus, it's an easy way to add value and be a better friend.
  • Lunch Groups: About 10 years ago, a friend and I setup an IT procurement lunch group in the Seattle/Bellevue area. We both invited procurement professionals we knew from several of the big companies around town. No agenda, just a chance to have lunch and talk about common challenges in IT procurement. We have met 2-3 times/year for the past ten years and the group has grown to about 30 with representation from the majority of the big companies in the region. Looking back, I can count over a dozen job changes that were facilitated by the relationships that came from this lunch group. I've also developed some good friendships from these lunches. This has been a great value to all involved and it doesn't really take that much time to schedule the lunches (maybe 2 hours total per year). These lunches have been so rewarding that I'm now considering starting other lunch groups for other topics (ex: authors, consultants, IT project managers, etc...). I highly recommend you start a lunch group in your niche. You won't regret it.
  • Hosting Dinners: Hosting dinners at a restaurant or better yet, at your home, is a great way to connect your friends and contacts and develop your contacts into friendships. Never Eat Alone by Keith Ferrazzi and Good in a Room by Stephanie Palmer (see Recommended Reading below) both spend a lot of time on this topic.
  • Invitational Events: This is a new thing I have just started doing this year. I have created an annual golf and barbecue at my house and have invited all of my business friends and contacts that I know are golfers. Golfing is a great way to develop friendships with your contacts and who doesn't like a barbecue? This is also a great way to connect your friends/contacts with other friends/contacts that you think will benefit from knowing each other. If you do setup a golf outing, use the best-ball format as that invites more interaction since everyone is playing the same shots throughout the day and it encourages teamwork.
  • Client Seminars: Some companies have found hosting client seminars to be a great way to network and connect their clients with each other. This is the most expensive option but will also promote your company's brand, which could be well worth the money in the long run.

These are just a few of the ways you can transition from a self-centered networking approach of acquiring new contacts to a more giving approach of growing your relationship with your current contacts by connecting them with each other.

Connector Tools

If you're going to be serious about becoming a Connector, you will need to setup a contact management system in order to keep track of all your business contacts. There are several tools that can help you not only track your contacts but also identify which ones should be introduced.

  • LinkedIn: LinkedIn is a great tool for learning more about your contacts. When you meet a new contact, you don't ask them to see their resume so you don't always have a complete picture of their background. LinkedIn provides an opportunity to see their resume online, even if you haven't sent them an invite to join your LinkedIn network. Another great feature of LinkedIn is that once someone joins your network, you can see who is part of their network. This can be a source of ideas for you to try and introduce your contacts to their contacts, which can be a benefit to both of you if it becomes a successful introduction. One other benefit of LinkedIn, and this is probably the most important to me, is that you will be able to keep in touch with your contacts when they change jobs. In the past, if the only contact information you had was their company email/phone, you lost contact with them when they changed jobs. LinkedIn solves this problem and will even notify you when your contacts change jobs. This gives you a great reason to reach out and say hi and congratulate them on their new job.
  • Facebook: Facebook is a purely social network that is starting to make headway into the business world. In the past, most people only invited their friends and family to join their Facebook network as most people post personal information, photos, etc... and don't want loose contacts to have that information until they know them better. Facebook addressed this by creating Pages. Users can have a personal profile for their friends and family and a Page for their public profile. That way people can add your Page to their network without you having to approve and you can use the page for more public-friendly posts. Following your contact's Facebook profile or Page(s) can be a great way to keep up on what is new with them. Lastly, Facebook has a feature where you can create an event and invite your friends. This is a good way to track who has accepted but the key is that everyone you want to invite needs to be on Facebook.
  • Twitter: Twitter is a micro-blogging platform, meaning that user posts are limited to 140 characters. Twitter is a purely public network that allows people to follow you without you needing to approve. For this reason, many people use Twitter for generic posts and don't get very personal. While some people use Twitter to meet new people and develop a relationship that can eventually be taken to other platforms (email, Facebook, LinkedIn, in person meetings, etc...), I have not personally had any of these relationships grow beyond Twitter. Nevertheless, it's a good idea to use Twitter as another means for tracking your existing contacts.
  • Eventbrite: Eventbrite is a great tool for scheduling events and tracking who can or can't attend. It also handles events that cost money and will allow attendees to pay for the event online using a credit card or Paypal. While there are many other event scheduling sites, I have personally used this one and have found it to be a great way to track who will be attending an event. It beats having to hunt through a bunch of emails to keep track of attendance.
  • Contact Managers: Finally, you will find that not all of your contacts are on LinkedIn, Facebook, or Twitter so you will need a contact management tool that can become your master contact list. There are many contact managers available so take a look at them and find one that fits your personal preference. Features to look for are adding contacts to multiple groups and tracking the last contact date. It's also nice if you can find one that notifies you that you haven't contacted someone for an extended period of time.

These are just a few of the tools that can be used to help you become a Connector. The key is to find tools that make it easier to connect your friends and contacts and not to let these tools become a time drag and a burden to keep updated. Try a number of tools and then regularly reassess whether they're adding value. For example, I keep an account on Facebook so people can find me and reconnect but I don't post there very often as I have found it to be a big time drain without a lot of value in most cases.

Recommended Reading

I have read each of the following books and they are must reads for anyone who is interested in growing their network of friends by becoming a Connector:

Start Connecting

Not sold yet on the value of approaching networking as a Connector? What do you have to lose? Give it a shot and see what happens. Identify 2-3 friends or business contacts and set a goal to introduce them to someone they would benefit from knowing within the next week. Or better yet, start a lunch group on a topic you're interested in and invite 10-15 people you think might benefit from meeting each other (Invite extra people as you will probably get around 25-50% to attend). You may just be surprised at what happens if you start approaching networking by giving instead of acquiring.

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Consulting as a Digital Nomad

There have always been nomadic workers who work on the road. In the past decade, a new type of nomad has emerged, the Digital Nomad. As technology has enabled affordable, continuous connectivity anywhere, more and more information workers have moved toward a mobile lifestyle. Dell provides technology to these workers and has created an online community for these Digital Nomads. Here is their definition of a Digital Nomad:

"In the Connected Era, Digital Nomads will Rule - Redefining productivity, placeshifting and timeshifting. Their devices won't wait to connect - they will simply be connected. Always. Everywhere. Business as usual will become business unusual."

Source: digitalnomads.com

How does the concept of a Digital Nomad apply to consulting?

Consulting as a Digital Nomad

Most consultants are also Digital Nomads. By nature a consultant is mobile, visiting client locations regularly. Since their clients have no reason to visit a consultant's office, there is no need to have an office. A consultant's office is wherever they are when they perform their craft. This is even more the case with solo consultants as they work alone and have no need for an office. Here are some considerations when preparing to apply the Digital Nomad approach to consulting:

  • Mobility: A light-weight laptop is essential for a consultant as it enables them to work onsite at a client location. I've also found it beneficial to have a tablet PC so I have the option of using it somewhat like a clipboard. My suggestion is to get an extra battery and a car power cord so you can continue to function during long spells away from your client or home office.
  • Connectivity: Ultimate mobility means being able to work anywhere at any time. That means having network connectivity anywhere at all times. My latest laptop has a built in broadband cellular connection. I have found this type of connection to have sufficient performance and it beats trying to find WiFi hotspots.
  • Communications: Cell phones and PDAs are now everywhere. Even 10-year old kids are walking around with sophisticated phones. As a consultant, you have no excuse for not having a decent and reliable phone. Additionally, take a look at services like Google Voice, where you can route your calls and have voicemails translated to text and emailed to you. Depending on the type of consulting, being reachable in a crisis can significantly increase your value to your clients.
  • Digital: The need to print everything out on paper is quickly going away. With the number of people using WiFi connected laptops in their offices, it can be more effective to email a file to everyone instead of printing it on paper. Digital Nomads go paperless so they don't have to carry their files around. Instead, keep everything online and setup a regular process for backing up your data. There are even services online today that will back up your files as you work and save them on multiple servers in a datacenter.
  • Work/Life Integration: People used to talk about creating work/life balance. As a consultant and Ditigal Nomad, I like to think of it more as work/life integration. Instead of working 9-5 and trying to have a life after 5, a consultant can often incorporate work throughout their daily lives. For example, you might take some time off during the middle of the day to enjoy a nice walk and/or lunch with your spouse and then take a call with clients in Asia in the evening. If you work 9-5, an evening call eats into your personal life and creates an imbalance. As a consultant and Digital Nomad, there is no imbalance as you can shift personal activity schedule around as needed.

While consulting as a Digital Nomad can initially seem chaotic, give yourself 6 months to get used to it and you will wonder how you ever worked 9-5 in a cubicle. It's freeing, improves your quality of life, and allows you the flexibility to experience life without missing out on important activities due to a rigid 9-5 desk job.

Finally, consulting as a Digital Nomad enables you to spend more time face-to-face with your clients, forging stronger relationships. These relationships are critical to succeeding as a solo consultant.

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The Case for Solo Consulting

If you are a cubicle dweller, I feel your pain. I've been there. I've got the t-shirt. After 6 years with one Fortune 500 company and 7 years with another, I made the jump to solo consulting. There's a whole story there but we'll save that for another time. Let's just say that going solo was the best move I've made in my career. The goal of this post is to lay out the case for you to go solo.

If you are one of the people described in the next section, I highly recommend that you consider this profession.

Who Should Be A Solo Consultant?

While you can go solo anytime in your career, this profession is ideal for someone who is already established in their career and already has a financial cushion and network of contacts. Once you have built up a resume and punched your ticket, going solo is the ticket to leading a better lifestyle while reaping the benefits of your years of hard work.

Benefits of Solo Consulting

  • Money: It's common knowledge that you have more control over the amount of money you make as a business owner than you do as an employee. As a solo professional, your overhead is minimal and most of the money you make goes straight to you. I personally take out approximately 95% of revenues out of my business every year. There's no reason to keep the capital in the company because, as a solo, I don't need capital to fund expansion. While money isn't the only reason to pursue solo consulting, it's a very big reason to consider it as a profession.
  • Lifestyle: When you become a solo consultant, your clients can't treat you like an employee or they risk blurring the line between employees and contractors. Therefore, they don't typically dictate your hours and that you spend 8-5 at a desk in their office. Instead, the focus shifts to results. In my experience, clients don't care when you work or where you work, they care about getting the results they're paying you for. This means you now have control over your work/life balance. I like to think of it more as work/life integration. Instead of starting work at 8 and ending at 5, I tend to incorporate work throughout the day and schedule in non-work activities as well. As far as where to work, work from home or work out of a local coffee shop. It doesn't matter where you work if you set yourself up with a laptop and cellular broadband.
  • Less Stress: In my experience, employees are loaded up with as many projects as they can handle. They just keep piling work on your plate until it starts dropping off. This causes you to do a lot of work but nothing really well. Consultants on the other hand are typically hired to tackle one project. This allows a consultant to focus on quality and execution and not be spread too thin. One huge benefit of this is less stress. If you come from a corporate climate, you will find consulting a lot easier. I my case, I went from being responsible for over 40 projects, a staff of 9, support of multiple business critical systems, owning 3 business unit relationships, and leading multiple negotiations as an employee to being responsible for one project as a consultant. It was like doing 70 mph and having to slow down to 25 mph to drive through a small town. The good thing about this is that you can easily hit home runs and the client is extremely happy about that. It takes 6-12 months to adjust to the new pace but what a difference in the stress level.
  • Less Politics: There will always be politics in any large group of people. The key difference as a solo consultant is that your personal stakes aren't as high in the outcome of those politics. For example, as an employee if someone takes credit for your work, it could impact your ability to get promoted. As a consultant, this is no longer a concern. It doesn't matter if someone takes credit for your work. As long as the person paying your bill is happy, it doesn't matter. So the stakes are lower. The other side of this is that you can also make more bold political moves on behalf of your client. It doesn't matter if you burn some bridges but your client has to live with these people. You become a greater asset if you can rock the boat a little on behalf of your client. Clients don't always ask you to do this but experience will tell you when it's the right thing to do on behalf of your client.
  • Independence: As a solo consultant, you answer only to yourself. Your career is not at the mercy of a manager who may not have your best interests in mind. Your promotions are not dependent political maneuvering or decisions made several levels up the corporate ladder. Instead, your growth is entirely dependent on the value of the results you provide to your clients. It's a true meritocracy. You do great work and clients keep hiring you and paying your fees. If you don't, they stop. It's as simple as that. If you want to make more money, provide more value to the client.
  • Opportunism: By staying solo, you don't have to sell your clients on a service or product. Instead, you can observe and listen to your clients and find out what they need. When you see a new opportunity, there is nothing stopping you from pursuing it. Over time, you gain confidence in your ability to adapt your products and services to any opportunity that presents itself. Using a surfing analogy, you don't try to change the waves for better surfing, you go find a beach that already has great waves and then you go surfing.
  • Agility: When you are solo, you can change your business focus immediately when you stumble upon a new opportunity. This is not always the case when you have employees with limited skillsets who are dependent on your decisions or when you have invested significant capital (bet the company) on a product or service with a year or more break-even point. As a solo consultant, when revenue declines, you can immediately cut expenses to a bare minimum and change your business to a more prosperous market opportunity. This agility provides a lower risk path than building up a large business.

False Drawbacks of Solo Consulting

These are the drawbacks that I have found to be false for solo professionals in my experience:

  • Job Security: As a solo consultant, by design you are fired every 3-6 months. Because you know this going in, you set yourself up to handle downtime and change. For example, when money is coming in, you save some so you have a cushion for the times when money isn't coming in. Another example is that you build your network broadly so that you aren't dependent on one company for your revenue. As an employee, I think you have less job security because someone else can fire you without you seeing it coming. Then you are faced with finding a job and dealing with cobra. As a solo consultant, you are networking all the time and always looking for new opportunities. This means you network all the time, not just after you are fired.
  • Insurance: One of the things I hear the most as the reason not to go into business for yourself is that insurance is too expensive. Most of these people haven't done the research to find out what the rates are for a personal health insurance plan. In my experience, it cost me more to have my spouse on my employer's insurance plan than it cost us to have personal insurance. Some employers provide full insurance coverage but these companies become increasingly rare in tough economic times. Another question to consider: if you can make another $100K per year as a consultant, who cares if you pay another $3-6K per year for insurance?

True [Potential] Drawbacks of Solo Consulting

Here are the drawbacks that I have found to be potentially true for solo professionals in my experience. I say potentially because there are ways to minimize the risk of these drawbacks becoming a reality:

  • Finding Work: Solo consultants shoulder the responsibility for finding their own work. As an employee, you are not typically responsible for finding your own work. You rely on a sales and marketing organization focused on bringing in new business. If you are in sales and marketing and you have a bad month that doesn't mean you don't get paid, that is unless you work strictly on commission. As a solo consultant, if you don't find work, you don't get paid. While this is a drawback to being solo, you can minimize this risk by developing a strong network and using gravity marketing to attract new clients.
  • Cash Flow Consistency: Managing cash flow is critical for a small business. When you're solo, it's even more critical since you don't always have diverse sources of revenue. If you are working for one client full-time and they end your contract early, your cash flow stops. This is one of the reasons why you will need to charge more as a consultant. You need to assume you will not work 100% of the time. You can minimize risk of running out of cash by building up a financial cushion when money is coming in so that you have some to weather the storm when money isn't coming in.
  • Ego: If you have been successful as an employee and you venture into solo consulting, you will find that people treat you differently. You no longer have a prominent role/title in a large company to identify with. When people ask what you do, you will find that people respond differently when you say you're a solo consultant. They often automatically assume you are out of work and just saying that because it sounds better than saying you're unemployed. You will also find that many of the people who you thought were friends will stop taking your calls once you are no longer in a prominent role in a big company where you can do something for them. Personally, I found this to be a good exercise in growing humility and not taking yourself too seriously. It's also a great way to filter/test your network to find out who your real friends are. After being a solo consultant for the past 5 years, I can say that it's worth it to shed the title in order to get a better lifestyle and make more money in the process.

Conclusion

Transitioning from employment to the solo consulting profession is a personal decision that only you can make. My hope is that this article will give you some things to think about when determining if this profession is right for you. All I can say is that it's the best decision I have made in my 19 year professional career and I wish I had made the jump a few years earlier.

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Sioux City Musketeers 89-90 - Hit Results in Fights

This is one of my favorite hits from when I played hockey for the Sioux City Musketeers in '89-90. I'm #25 in white delivering the hit. The next play is the other team's response to the hit.

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Sioux City Musketeers 90-91 Overtime Goal

This is a highlight from the Sioux City Musketeers hockey team - 90-91 season. We were one of the worst teams in the league and were playing one of the top teams. The game was tied 6-6 in overtime. Our coach had come up with this crazy play where we would shoot the puck the length of the ice and if it had enough speed at the far corner it would bounce off an edge that stuck out on the Zamboni door and right in front of the net. Meanwhile, our forward would sprint down the ice and beat the defenseman to the puck. We all laughed at the coach but he made us practice it a bunch of times. Wouldn't you know it, it worked. I was the guy who shot the puck down the ice and Jim Fish was the one who scored the goal.

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Pikes Peak hill climb record

Watch this video of Rhys Millen setting a new Pikes Peak hill climb record in his Hyundai Genesis (modified). Looks like a lot of fun! Nice camera work too.

Enabling Opportunistic Tactical Decision-Making

Does your company capitalize when a market condition creates a significant short-term opportunity? Recently, big box retailers missed 2 opportunities in the NW:

  • Power Outage: Two winters ago, the Seattle area was hit with a storm that took out power in the whole region for 1-2 weeks. Generators were sold out immediately and nowhere to be found until power was restored 1-2 weeks later.
  • Heat Wave: Last week, the Seattle area had record heat. Every big box retailer in the area had sold out of portable ACs on the first day of the heat wave. The guy at Lowes said they had 60 people lined up at their door at 6am for a shipment they received of 35 generators.

In both cases, by the time the catalyst occurred, it was too late to capitalize on the opportunity. Only 13% of homes in the NW have AC. My guess is they could have sold a several thousand portable ACs if they had them in stock. Not bad in these tough economic times.

First, what triggers can you proactively put in place in your company to capitalize on short-term opportunities like these? Second, what policies do you have in place that would allow regional management to make decisions quickly to act on these opportunities?

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Wireless-free Home Network

After reading about some of the potential harmful effects of using wireless in your home, I decided to try out this solution by Netgear . I just purchased and installed a pair of Netgear XE103G-100NAS Powerline Ethernet Adapter and a Netgear XE104 85 Mbps Powerline 4-Port Ethernet Adapter. All you do is plug one into a power outlet and the others at different power outlets in your home. They automatically connect to each other and provide 85 Mbps connectivity. The other advantage is that you don't have to run wires throughout your home and no longer need to deal with signal strength like you do with wireless routers. I've used it for a few days and I'm sold on the technology. Also, the pricing is comparable to wireless networking.

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CEOs Define the Framework for Decision-Making

Decisions are made at all levels of an organization, spanning short-term tactical to long-term strategic, unimportant to critical, low-risk to high-risk, simple to complex, and common to unusual.

How does a CEO improve and influence the full range of decision-making at all levels of their organization? The wrong answer is for the executive to insert themselves in more levels of decision-making. Instead, CEOs should focus on defining the framework for decision-making. The framework should clearly define the criteria (objective and/or subjective) that will be used as the basis of a specific type of decision.

For example, in the May 2009 edition of the Harvard Business Review, A.G. Lafley, CEO of Procter & Gamble, describes the following decision framework used to determine which business(es) they should be in: 1) Structural attractiveness of the business: low capital, high margins, and relatively high growth, 2) P&G’s leadership position relative to its competitors: global sales and market share, and 3) Strategic fit of various industries with P&G’s core competencies and strengths: consumer understanding, brand building, innovation, go-to-market capability,and global scale. Instead of evaluating each decision on a case by case basis, the decision framework helped P&G improve their decision-making for all future business portfolio decisions.

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Travel Notes: Japan & China - Nov 2007

As I planned a 7-day trip to China, I decided to add a 3-day layover in Tokyo. I was lucky to have friends in Tokyo who graciously hosted me and showed me around Tokyo. I also had a friend in China who spoke the language and offered to take a week vacation to tour China with me. Here are my thoughts and observations from the trip:

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Tokyo, Japan

I spent 3 days in Tokyo. After arriving on Friday night, I took the 30 minute bus ride into Tokyo and met up with my friends, Mike and Sunny. We spent the next 3 days taking subways, walking, and boating around Tokyo. I saw a lot in 3 days and got a good feel for the place. Here are my observations:

  • Tokyo is a very clean city. Mike and I went for a walk one morning and we came upon an old lady in a kimono sweeping 3 leaves into a dust pan on the sidewalk in front of her retail establishment. This was a huge contrast from what I was about to witness in China. I think there is a pride of ownership in Japan that doesn’t exist in China. Real-estate in Tokyo is very expensive so people take care of what little space they have.
  • Tokyo is very safe. I was surprised to see police on literally every other corner. There were little police kiosks everywhere. They were usually young and very polite. It made me feel safe to know that nothing would happen too far from the sight or sound of a police officer.
  • Tokyo has a good subway system. The subways were very clean and safe. They are the main form of transportation in the city. There are many subway lines run by different companies so it can be very confusing making transfers to get to your final destination. The good thing is they have a card system where you load the card like a gift card, scan it entering the subway and exiting the subway, and your card is debited based on the distance traveled.
  • People dress up in Tokyo. I noticed people dress nicer in general than in Seattle. The men wear suits to work and the women all wear skirts and high-heals. Also, everyone, and I mean everyone, has a cell phone and is often typing text messages with two thumbs.
  • Tokyo real-estate is expensive. No surprise here, Tokyo is one of the most expensive cities to live in. Aside from real-estate, everything else is relatively inexpensive.
  • Mid-town and Rapungi Hills are both very nice, upscale neighborhoods and would be nice places to live or visit.
  • I would definitely visit Tokyo again and would even consider living there for a period of time.

Shanghai-Xi’an-Beijing, China

I spent 7 days touring China. This included 1 night in Shanghai, 3 nights in Xi’an, 2 nights in Beijing, and 1 night in Shanghai. My friend Nathan, a Chinese-American who was working in China at the time, took a week vacation from his job in Shanghai to tour China with me. Here are my observations:

  • The air in Xi’an is lacking. There was a haze in the air but it didn’t smell at all. I noticed a thin layer of dust coating the streets and buildings. There is a lot of construction so I assumed it was the cause of the dust. Both Nathan and I got a sore throat and lost our voices over the next week. Nathan had a doctor friend in Beijing and called him to get advice. He told Nathan that everyone who visits Xi’an gets a sore throat, even the locals, and that it would go away in 7 days with antibiotics and 10 days without antibiotics. He was right. He said it was caused by the wood burning stoves that people use to heat their houses.
  • China felt safe. I had a chance to walk the streets of the local neighborhoods (day and night), take subways, city buses, and taxis, and eat at the local restaurants. Because I was with Nathan and he spoke the language, I felt comfortable venturing outside the tourist districts. I definitely saw a different China than I saw within the tourist districts and attractions. Overall, I felt safe the whole time. I did see a fist fight between two young kids in the subway in Beijing but you see that in the US too. I guess it’s their form of road rage.
  • Driving is aggressive but not personal. In the US, people honk and want to fight you if you cut them off. In China, everyone cuts everyone off and takes every inch they can get. The difference is that it’s not personal in China. Because everyone drives the same way (no rules and take every inch), it’s expected. Honking in China is a form of communication (I’m here, I’m taking that spot, etc…). It’s only when then lay on the horn that they’re mad. I saw cars driving the wrong direction on the freeway twice. Yikes!
  • People cross the streets while cars are coming. It only took me a day to get used to this and then I was doing it myself. The key is to keep moving and not hesitate. The cars will time it so they just miss you. As long as you don’t hesitate, everything flows smoothly. I have a picture of this in the photos attached to this post.
  • Every Starbucks I visited (in China and Japan) was jam-packed. Starbucks has done a great job creating the same experience as in the US.
  • The tourist attractions and tourist districts were like everywhere else in the world: manufactured experiences designed to extract as much money from your wallet as possible. The most memorable and enjoyable experiences for me were getting outside the tourism and experiencing the real China. I wish I could have spent more than a week there.
  • Everything is super inexpensive in China. The real-estate is only expensive if you want luxury. No need for a car as the subways (in Shanghai and Beijing), buses, and taxis are affordable and efficient. Use travel agencies in China. They block rooms in hotels and can often get discounts in excess of 50%.
  • Everything is negotiable. People expect you to negotiate and respect you more if you do.
  • I’m very fortunate. I expected to come back with an appreciation for the material wealth we have in the US. What I didn’t expect is to come back with an appreciation for the opportunities we have in the US. This especially applies to women. I was struck by how hard the women worked in China even though they have little chance to prosper financially. I recognize that this is common in developing countries and this will improve as China continues to grow and integrate with the global economy.
  • I would definitely visit China again and would consider living in Shanghai. Touring China was a great experience and opened my eyes to the realities in China versus what you see and read in the media.

I love travelling and this trip was one of my favorites. I hope to visit both countries many times in the future and also encourage you to experience Japan and China if you ever have the opportunity.

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